All our lives we are faced with choices. Along with choices come consequences.
According to the Mirriam-Webster dictionary this is the meaning of Consequence:
Definition of consequence
1: a conclusion derived through logic.
2 : something produced by a cause or necessarily following from a set of conditions.
3 : importance with respect to power to produce an effect.
4 : the appearance importance (especially self-importance.
So you can easily see how your actions determine your outcome and why your life is the sum of your choices. There are several scriptures in the bible that encourages us to turn and flee from temptations. This advice was not set in place to control us but rather to protect us.
When we choose to do things that hurt us, we will be hurt. Red flags, gut -feelings, these are all there to warn us: Danger ahead. But how many times do we heed these warnings? How many times have you been tempted to jump into a relationship when there are red flags everywhere and then months, years, later, you find yourself miserable, crying, wondering how your life got to where it is?
Or you have taken on a job and stayed in it year after year while the stress over -loaded you and now you think you are too old to start over. You have spent the majority of your life working a job you hated and all of your dream have dwindled into lost hopes. And those you struggle daily with health issues, high-blood pressure, heart issues, spending more on medicine than you do on vacations, (that you can’t take because of medical bills and the fact that your always sick) but you refuse to change your nutrition habits. Fast foods, soda’s, junk that you know is destroying your body but you ingest it daily. All the while surfing facebook jealous of the life others live and wishing your life was like theirs.
I’m here to tell you, your life can be like theirs. But you have to do something. You have to make different choices. Your life is made up of daily choices. So to make today different than yesterday, choose to make it different. If you are truly in a job you hate that is taking your life away, you’re not to old to change careers. You just have to believe in your dreams and make them happen. If your health is causing you to live life inside of medicine bottles, do an honest evaluation of your nutrition and exercise habits, What needs to change there to become the healthy person who wish you could be?
How about relationships? Do you constantly feel used, heart-broken, worthless? What kind of red flag or gut feeling did you ignore to be with the person you are with? Sure they were attractive and the chemistry was strong. Yes, they were fun and exciting. But…..it was clear they did not like kids and your a mother of three. They are a homebody and you love to go out every night. You are frugal and they spend like money grows on trees. Sure some people are willing to compromise in relationships, but it doesn’t take very long into dating to determine who will and who won’t compromise.
That sexual energy that feels so good in the beginning won’t replace the fact that your partner stays upset when you can’t do something because you have to stay home with your kids. Or you feel rejected when you want to get dressed up to go out and all they want to do is sit at home in pajamas watching t.v and eating popcorn on the couch. How about the fact that you have been saving for years for your dream home and someone comes along and wants to spend, spend, spend and all of a sudden you find your savings depleted. Where is that chemistry now and what has it doing for you?
True relationships aren’t built around chemistry no more than love is built around sex. Again your choices determine your outcome. Now you are looking at this person that at one time you couldn’t wait to crawl in bed with and you are seething with annoyance wondering what you ever saw in them to begin with.
Everyone of the situations I have described could be avoided and/or changed with choices, The life we’ve made does not have to be the life we continue to live.
What/who do you want out of life?
What kind of different choices are you willing to make to have it?
This weeks challenge: Take a look at the sum of your life. Where are you vs where you want to be? Who are you vs who you want to be?
Now take out a pen and paper and start writing down the choices you made that has gotten you were you are, (and recognize that it is not all bad). Now write what different choices you need to start making to get you were you want to be or who you want to be. There may be some hard truths come to lite and some challenging choices to make.
That is why we are here.
You can face the choices, you can challenge them and you can conquer them.
Feel free to share some of your choices and things you can/will do to make different ones. Your story just may be the inspiration someone else needs to change their story. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. We (myself included) have all made bad choices. We can all look back at the summary of our lives and shake our heads at the positions we have put ourselves in. But we can also change our future starting today by changing our choices. So today, what is your choice going to be? Stay where you are or make or go where you want to be?
The choice really is yours to make.