Recently I was talking to a client about his health issues and he told me he knew he needed to get control of his bad habits he just wasn’t quite there yet.
I told him “When you’re ready for change, change will happen.”
This is true for all of us. We want things to be different but we tend to continue to do the same things, which gets us the same results. Until we change our actions, habits, lifestyles, beliefs, nothing will change.
But change is hard.
It’s hard to do, hard to accept, sometimes even hard to just think about.
For instance, I want to change the look of my living room. I have been saying for at least 6 months I want to paint it. The issue is, I don’t know what colors I want. I am not big on change. If I like something I tend to have it forever. I actually have a wall rug hanging in my living room I have had for over 20 years. I also have decorations that range anywhere between 2 and 10 years. Hey, I like them so why replace them? That is my thought process.
But my living room NEEDS repainting.
I go back and forth with color schemes. My main worry is What if I don’t like it as much? It’s not like I can put it back to the way it was. And then what?
Not my living room, but I really like this two-tone look of brown and white. I have panel boar on the bottom that has been here since the house was built 30 years ago and really needs updating. What do you think of these colors?
It’s so hard to decide.
Do you ever find yourself feeling that way? You know something NEEDS to change, but you’re scared to take the first step. What if you don’t like the results. What if you start the change and can’t complete it? So many “What if’s.’
Healthy habits seem to be the hardest changes for people to make.
I hear it so much in my line of work. Both in my massage practice and with my virtual healthy aging business. People are quick to tell you about their health problems and even quicker to tell you “No thank you” or “Not right now” when you offer them a possible solution or even advice.
It really baffles me to see someone in so much pain, riddled with inflammation, heartburn, headaches, etc. To the point where they are now also taking depression medication because they feel so bad all the time, it is affecting them mentally as well as emotionally. Yet, when I talk to them about their eating habits, their reaction is “Well that’s the only enjoyment I get out of life, so I’m not willing to change that part.”
That part is the part that is causing the issues to begin with. If they were to change that part, there is a good chance they wouldn’t even be dealing with the other issues.
Another head-shaker for me is people who complain constantly about being broke, yet don’t want to change their money habits. If your spending more than your making, you’re going to have money issues.
I love eating out and traveling. My two favorite things in the world of things to do. I eat out, more than I eat in most weeks. But I budget it and I sacrifice in other areas to allow me to do this. I am not big on clothes shopping, don’t care about designer labels, and, as I already stated previously, most of my decorations I have had for years, and have no interest in buying new ones. I pretty much have my basic monthly bills and I spend my fun money I what I truly enjoy. Eating out and traveling.
But I know people who want it all and have it all, to their detriment. If you make $400 a week and you stop every morning for a $5 cup of coffee, then go to lunch every day at the tune of $10 and then buy a weekly new outfit to the tune of $50 and go out to eat, let’s just say 3 times a week, so let’s estimate low, maybe $60 and then meet your friends for drinks for around $30. You have now spent $155. Let’s times that by 4 and there is $620. Now let’s take your income of $400 and times that by 4 which gives you $1600 then deduct what you have spent just on “Enjoyment’, you are left with $980. Can you live on $980? That doesn’t even cover my rent and car payment.
Yet, so many people do this without even realizing they do it until they find themselves struggling to pay bills. Now they are depressed and hate every aspect of their life. But try to talk to them and they are not willing to change because “Spending” is the only thing that makes them happy.
When the thing that is making you happy, is the thing that is causing you to be depressed, broke, unhealthy, it is time for a change. No matter how hard that change is. Nothing will be different until you are ready for it to be. And when you are ready and you make the changes you will be astonished at how much difference there will be and how much different YOU will be.
I will get my house painted before the end of the year. I have started looking at paint colors, talking to friends to get suggestions, and looking at new furniture. I am going to reward myself once I get my project done. I have added this to my budget and have started saving so I will be prepared when the time comes. I am tired of talking about change and not actually doing anything for the change to occur.
This week’s challenge is to figure out where or what you need to change to make improvements in your life. Whether it is to improve your health, your finances, your living space, even your relationships if that is where change needs to take place.
You an only you know what changes need to be made and where. I believe in your desire to want the changes and therefore believe the changes will be made. I would love to hear what changes you have made or will be making and why. Leave a message in the comment and begin the message with CHANGE. Help inspire others to make changes in their lives. Include pictures if you want. Remember “When you’re ready for change, change will happen.” Not a moment before.
Face it, Challenge it, Conquer it.