Wow, long title today, but I hope it caught your attention and makes you think.
So what do I mean by this question?
It’s pretty simple actually. From a young child we are constantly being ‘told’ what we are. “You’re such a good girl, you’ve been a bad boy. Why are you so loud, you’re so quiet, shy, smart, observant. etc” Our personalities are almost formed for us. We start taking on these labels and they become who we are. Or at least who we think we’re supposed to be.
As adults these traditions continue, but goes even further. Have you ever shown up for work and had someone ask if you were sick or feeling bad? Your answer could be “no I’m fine, why?” Then comes the response, “Well you just don’t look so good today,” or “Well you’re a little pale so I thought perhaps you were sick.” It has been scientifically proven that in these cases a person will actually become sick from the mere thought of ‘THINKING’ they look sick, because that’s what someone told them.
Now let’s take this even deeper. What if someone tells you your fat, ugly, stupid? How long will it take to start believing these things? And worse how long after you start believing them will you allow yourself to fall into a state of depression believing that you are not worthy?
What happens if you get with a partner who wants to control you? How do you think they would go about that? Of course, by causing you to believe things about yourself that may not be true at all.
What if all your life you have felt pretty normal and all of a sudden you get with someone who starts hinting around that you might have mental illness? What if daily you are being told that you are narcissistic just because you are confident, or your being told you have severe ADD because you get up and handle your business like a boss? How long will it take before you start questioning your own sanity?
Usually not long.
Then you start seeking help, because if something is wrong with you you want to fix it right? Now you are being prescribed medicine that you don’t need, THEN, the side-effects start taking place. The brain fog, the inability to think straight, loss of appetite, etc. Now you are not only mentally sick (as someone has convinced you,) Now you’re also physically sick and since you can’t remember the last time you felt well, you believe you have been sick all of your life. Now someone has you vulnerable and they can control you.
Do you see the cycle and how this works? We as humans in general take to heart what others tell us negatively, more than we do positively. How many times has someone given you a compliment and you just denied the compliment and walked away? Why can’t we allow our brains to so easily believe the positive as we do the negative?
For that matter why do we believe the negative at all? Why can’t we allow our brains to filter out truth from fiction?
This weeks challenge is to start training your brain to filter out what it is being told. Only allow it to believe words of affirmations or positivity.
If someone gives you a compliment, don’t just receive it, believe it. Allow your brain to process it and start living it. For example, if someone ask if your sick and all of a sudden you feel like your coming down with something, use that same brain power to start feeling prettier when someone says ‘You’re beautiful.’ Radiate a smile, feel it in your soul. It will change your outlook, therefore changing your whole persona. If someone tells you you’re smart, run with that. DO something smart. The more action you take, the more real it becomes. Especially since it was already real to begin with. You just needed to hear it to believe it.
If someone tells you you’re crazy. Question them. Don’t just accept it as fact and definitely don’t give them more ammunition by acting out of anger for their comments.
Start a conversation. Ask them what you have done or are doing that makes them think this way? Then listen to what they have to say. They will either have a legitimate reason and you may actually have some work you need to do on yourself or they may just be trying to bring you down to either have control over you, or to make them feel more powerful by feeding on your vulnerabilities.
The brain is our most powerful organ. What we feed it is as important as what we feed our bodies. It needs to be nourished daily with good, healthy choices. Like a garden it should be fertilized and weeded. Adding the positive in and pulling the negative out. Yes, it will take work to make this process happen, but it is possible. If you work daily on not believing everything you’re told in a negative light, eventually your brain will learn to filter on it’s own truth from lies. You are who you were created to be, not who everyone tells you, you are. Take that to heart this week and let your beautiful self shine.
Face it….Challenge it……Conquer it.