How easy is it to judge someone else’s actions without looking at your own? As humans we are quick to talk about all the things that other people do that affect our well being but refuse to acknowledge the things that we do that may effect other peoples lives. I not only see it, I hear it. And sadly enough, I must admit, I do it too.
Sometimes all I can do is look at a person dumbfounded when I hear them complain about what someone has done or is doing to them, when I know for a fact the person complaining has done the exact same thing to others.
We disregard our own actions, because in our minds there is legitimate reasons for the things we do.
I believe the parables written in the history book better known as the Bible were written to help us understand that life doesn’t have to be filled with drama.
Yes, according to scripture, there was drama in Jesus’s day. Why else would there be scriptures specifically stating ‘Mind your own business unless your life is perfect.’ Is that not basically what this scripture says:
Matthew 7:3-4 3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?
Drama is created, it does not just happen. What’s even worse is drama usually has a spiral effect. Almost like a tornado sucking in everyone and everything it comes in contact with.
But just as easily as it’s started it can be avoided.
You can’t stop others from acting the way they act, but you can think about your own actions. Be aware of how you’re treating others. When something happens that really bothers you, instead of blowing up about it or starting the much loved yet dreaded gossip trail, ask yourself if there is a chance you do the same thing.
Use it as a learning experience to change your own actions. Or perhaps your perceptions. Maybe even, your expectations. We all have our expectations of others, but sometimes we put those expectation in places of our wants and needs, instead of the wants and/or needs of those whom we are judging.
When we take the time to fix our own lives, we won’t have the time, or energy to be constantly trying to fix someone else’s. And when you stop allowing other people’s lives to negatively effect yours, you just might find your life getting better.
So now I will ask. Who are you judging today? Who’s plank are you pointing out and do you see the three fingers pointing back at you, while only one is pointing towards someone else?
This weeks challenge. Look in the mirror at the plank in your own eye. Start giving yourself all the advice that you so easily dish out to others and then follow it in the way you wish others did. Make your life they type of life that leads by example, not judgement.