We have all experienced it at some point in our lives. That nagging feeling that we are just not good enough.
As confident as I am most times, Even I have over-whelming feelings of self-doubt on more occasions than I would like to admit. Such as with this blog, which I love writing. I have not built the audience yet that I had hoped to build. So my mind is constantly telling me that my writing is not good enough. My content is not interesting, no one cares about what I have to say.
But then I read articles on other bloggers who are making their living (and very good ones I must say) off of blogging. All of them say the same thing. It starts off slow. Don’t give up. Do it because you love it, the rest will fall in line. So here I am, three days later than normal, writing my blog.
And the reason I am three days late is because I allowed myself too fall into the ‘No one is reading it anyway, so why should I write it’ category.
We all have strengths and weaknesses. This relates to not only what we can do, but also how we look. Can you imagine if we all looked exactly alike or did the same thing the same way? What a boring world this would be.
The problem is instead of focusing on our own strengths, we tend to compare ourselves to others, making us feel less than. This person does this better, or this one has more of a following. Maybe someone has a bigger house, nicer car, better job. We allow these things to make us feel less important when the truth is we all serve a valuable role in life. And even more important, by acknowledging the importance of wanting more, it gives us the drive (or should) to do more, try harder and strive to be better.
The only way to do better, is to learn what your strengths are and use them to your advantage. Understand your weaknesses and find ways, if possible, to strengthen them. Learn from your mistakes and embrace your failures as lessons learned and always be proud of your own accomplishment’s instead of focusing on others.
Well what about my looks someone might ask. I was born with this nose, these eyes, this body. Whatever it is that you think is not good enough. That thing that causes you to doubt yourself as being loveable. Guess what? I truly believe there is someone for everyone. You just have to wait until you cross paths with them. Have you ever been out in public and seen a couple that just looked really odd? You thought to yourself ‘they really don’t belong together’. Well that is you making judgements based on someone’s looks instead of someone’s personality. Which you wouldn’t know because they are strangers in a crowd. So what if you don’t look like a super model? Use your character, your personality to attract the person you want. And be real. Some people will only date others that they feel are attractive. You know what they says more about them on the inside. They want to maintain a certain standard of how people see them and therefore it has nothing to do with you at all.
It boils down to this. Know your worth. You ARE everything you need to be and you have everything you need to have, to accomplish everything you want to accomplishment.
This weeks challenge is to stop comparing yourself to everyone else and figure out what your strength and weaknesses are. Make a list if you need to. Once you have done this, take a look at what your trying to accomplish. How can you use your strengths to get you there? How can you strengthen your weaknesses or take them out of the equation at all. When a person is born with no arms they learn to use their feet to do daily tasks. They know they have no other choice. It is either use what they have or do nothing. Put yourself into that mind frame.
When you feel self-doubt arise go the other way. What is it your doubting? I am going through a phase right now where I feel like I don’t fit into the class of friends I hang out with. Seriously that’s a thing. So when these feelings over shadow me, I remind myself of how much my friends love me for who I am, not what I have. I bring so much to the table and I focus on those things versus the material things I don’t have.
Take one strength and work with it. Is it writing, music, helping people, volunteering, working with children. There are so many strengths we all have, and each one is different and unique. Focus on that one strength and allow it to fill the void that self-doubt causes. God created us all perfect in His site. He knew there would be areas we wouldn’t do great in. So he made others great in those areas. We all fit together like a giant jigsaw puzzle and it’s a beautiful picture when you stand back and look at it.
This week I wish for you all to find your strength and embrace your weakness. I hope that your self-doubt turns into self-fulfillment and you conquer the fear of not trying for fear of failing.
Face it….Challenge it……Conquer it.