Whether you celebrate the holidays or not, you can’t deny it’s the season of lights. You can’t go anywhere without seeing them.
It’s just a beautiful time of year but some people can’t see past their own darkness to enjoy the beauty and splendor of the lights. I get it. If you read my last post you will know I have been in a little darkness of my own. But then the light made it’s way back in.
It is hard to see light when you’re in a dark tunnel. Sometimes no matter how bright it shines, you just can’t see it or feel it’s warmth. But you know this blog is about facing and conquering challenges. So today we are going to talk about what you can do to punch holes in your dark situation.
First you need to try and figure out what is going on that has you in that place. It could be loneliness, self-loathing, anger, depression. Whatever it is, the first step is to recognize the problem. The next step is to try to get to the root of the problem.
Some of you maybe saying I have tried for years, or, I know the root of my problem but I can’t fix it. That is where the next step comes in.
Is your problem really fixable or is it something you might just have to accept as is and move on? If you are still living in major depression over a childhood that wasn’t great. Let that stuff go. I am sorry for whatever it was that happened, but holding on to it like a child carrying around a ragged stuffed animal is never going to change it.
You have to accept it was what it was and become a survivor of the fact, not a victim. I am not even going to tell you that you have to forgive, (although that helps too). I am just going to be blunt and say LET IT GO! That darkness you carry around that keeps you miserable is only there because you are grasping it so tight, there is no room for anything else in your life.
If you have recently or maybe not so recently gone through a bad relationship/breakup, thank God you got out of it, quit dwelling on it and start living again. It’s over, move on. Not so easy you say? I get it. I have been there. Cried until my ribs hurt and didn’t want to get out of bed. But none of that brought back the relationship or changed the nature of what it was/was not! And until I decided on what I would and wouldn’t accept in future relationships and started spending my energy looking for that kind of human, I was constantly reminded of how miserable I was.
Maybe you have had a loved one die. I am so sorry for your loss. Please grieve as long as you need too. But understand that person is now in another place. I personally am what’s called a Spiritual Christian. So even though I do believe in Heaven, I also believe in the spirit world and reincarnation. My belief is when a loved one passes, they either go into a sprit world where they can be close to us at their choosing, or they are reincarnated into another physical form. With that belief, at least for me, it helps me to get through sadness that is associated with death. I know that I will always miss that presence but there are three ways I will always be close to them.
Either they are still with me in the spirit sense, they are going to be reincarnated into someone who will be in my future, or on the day of Jesus’s return we will reunite in heaven. When I think about it this way it helps to overcome the grief and be able to enjoy the memories I have of the person.
I could go on about other things that cause us to live in darkness, but I think you get the jist of it. So now that you recognize WHY you’re in darkness how do you get light in?
Well, you first need to find sources of light. Even if it’s just small amounts. What makes you happy? For me it’s Family, friends, karaoke, live music, and adventures. When I do these things, or around my friends and family, I am in my happy place. If you start looking for things that make you happy instead of staying in the sadness lounge, little by little, light will start filtering it’s way through.
Then when you realize it is possible to feel and be happy, you will start looking for more ways to be happy and before you know it, you will have less moments of darkness and more moments of light.
This weeks challenge is to get out and find some lights. If seeing Christmas lights make you sad, release whatever it is that is causing the sadness and just bask in the beauty of the light. If your going through a hard financial time (as so many of us are right now during the holidays) don’t think about it. Just enjoy the lights and sounds for what they are. A moment of celebration. You don’t have to attach spending money too it.
Go out and smile at someone. I do that sometimes. I just greet random people with a smile or hold a door open, a kind word or gesture does wonders for changing a bad day into a good one. And when I receive a smile or kind word back, it makes me feel good inside and there is my light.
Please fell free to comment on what you did or saw this week. If you saw lights feel free to share pictures. If it stops raining I am taking my family out tonight to see Christmas lights and ride a trolley. Nest week I have a friend coming into town and we are going downtown to ice skate and see all the downtown festivities. I am so excited about that already.
Until next week…..
Face it………………..Challenge it………………Conquer it.