If you are learning anything about me, it is that I love adventure. Whether it’s hanging out with friends, exploring new karaoke venues or traveling to places unknown. I am always down for something new.
So many times people fear the unknown. They are scared to go around the corner, because they’re not sure what lies beyond the bend. Refuse to venture off the beaten path, because they’re scared of getting lost.
Fear is a good thing, to a point. It is our bodies way of protecting ourselves from possible harm. The true definition of fear is this:
FEAR [ˈfir]NOUN an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.
So it’s natural to be afraid of the unknown.
BUT…..that should never stop you from living, or experiencing new things. So you’ve been loved and hurt. Should you never attempt love again? What would you be missing out of?
Happiness? Most likely.
How about that thought that you keep having of joining a new group? But you don’t because you’re afraid no one will like you. How are you going to know if you don’t at least try? And let’s dig a little deeper. Why do you have a fear of people not liking you?
Maybe it’s because you don’t like yourself.
What have you done to believe you’re unworthy of being liked? Maybe you really do have a personality problem. I’m going to go against the grain of what most people would inject here. Maybe you have anger issues, maybe you’re narcissistic. Maybe you have an entitled complex and you go into a group and treat everyone as inferior.
Maybe you really do need to do some soul searching and see if the problem is you and not them. But don’t be afraid to do it. If you really want change, then change will come.
But maybe you’re a perfectly happy, love everybody kind of person and you’re just super shy, or you have anxiety but you really want to be around people and enjoy life.
Immerse yourself in it, but only in small bouts.
You don’t have to spend countless hours at a party just to fit in. Show up, have fun and leave when you’re ready. After all, it’s your life and you get to call the shots.
Want to go on an adventure but don’t have anyone to go with you? That’s fine. Go alone. This past weekend I went on a girls retreat to the mountains with my daughter and a couple of her friends. On the day we were to leave they had kids and husbands to get back to.
I didn’t, so I decided I was going to take the long way home, through the mountains. I wanted time to myself after having been around people all weekend. And I wanted to explore. I am so glad I did. I stopped at waterfalls and little creeks along the way.
I had no one beside me worried about time or getting annoyed at how many times I turned around because I missed something I wanted to see. I even stopped at a washed out stream bank and picked up some beautiful rocks to bring home and add to my rock collection.
It took them an hour and a half to get home. It took me four.
Sure there is a huge possibility that someone could have been with me and enjoyed all the things I enjoyed, but on this trip it was all about me. And that’s ok. Just like it is ok to make it all about you sometimes.
So I will ask you again. Where does your road lead? Where do you want to go? What do you want to do? What kind of exploring do you see in your future and what is stopping you from doing it?
This weeks challenge: Do something different. Make a new friend, explore a new place, eat a new food. Think of one thing you have been wanting to do, big or small, whatever you can do, and just do it. And after you do it please leave comments and let us know how what you did and how it went.
Conquer the unknown!